Types of Abuse
speaking, abuse is any behavior that results in the mistreatment of
another. There are seven major kinds of
abuse: physical, emotional/verbal, social, sexual, spiritual, financial, and
systems. To describe what is meant by
“mistreatment of another”, some common examples of abuse are listed below:
objects at you.
you in ways that hurt or scare you.
your arm, slapping, or biting you.
or shoving you.
you of food, shelter, money or clothing.
you with weapons.
punching, or kicking you.
or throwing you.
you to the point you need medical treatment.
your bones and/or causing internal injuries.
a miscarriage or injuries that require a therapeutic abortion.
you medical treatment.
permanent disabling and/or disfiguring injuries.
you in the name of “fun”.
you and/or your feelings.
you that you will fail.
you for her/his faults.
you with violence or retaliation.
to hurt your pets.
to abuse the children and/or get custody of them.
you that you must stay because you can’t make it alone.
you of being violent when you protect yourself in any way.
you as crazy, stupid, bitch, bastard, ugly, or a whore.
you for things that go wrong.
back approval as a form of punishment.
your use of money.
down your abilities.
up on you.
you from place to place – stalking
all of your attention and resenting any focus on others.
a public display of destroying property.
to hurt your extended family and friends.
you from friends or activities.
paychecks without meeting obligations.
about you or others as sexual objects.
you to have sex, including sex after a beating.
your sexual performance.
affection to punish you.
you of looking at, talking to, or having sex with another.
you to engage in sexual activities that are uncomfortable for you.
harm or mutilation of your genitals.
or slapping you during sex.
your sense of right and wrong.
minimizing, or ridiculing your spiritual beliefs.
you value as a person with legitimate wants and likes.
your motives for just about everything.
your sense of reality.
to allow you access to worship communities or support groups.
Adapted from: It’s Not Okay Anymore, Greg Enns and Jan Black, Hannibal
House, Inc., 1996.
restraining and protection orders.
to officials – including Judges – concerning legal information (property value,
income, insurance and retirement benefits, etc.).
suing for divorce and/or custody after victim has applied.
false statements and/or coercing children into false statements explaining the
types and amount of abuse in attempt to minimize the impact.
diverting, or embezzling funds.
funds so victim does not have access to purchasing basic needs.
the victim the right to seek and/or maintain employment.
victim’s personal money with or without permission.
the victim from making financial decisions.